“Not being able to govern events, I govern myself.” –Michel de Montaigne
Good for Montaigne.
He certainly had the right idea, and I don’t doubt that he had more success than the average person in governing himself and avoiding the futility of worrying over things outside his control.
How simple it is to understand that the vast majority of things that have happened, that are happening, and that will happen are beyond our control.
How challenging it is, though, to genuinely accept our very limited role in the unfolding of events.
Stuff happens. You can see events as happening to you. Or you can see everything—even, or especially, undesirable events—as happening for you, as opportunities for you to choose wisely how to respond and how to govern yourself.