Pick a date and make your idea happen

My wife and I hosted a cookout tonight for the students I work with. It’s our way of thanking them for all the hours they put in during the summer.

We decided just this week to move the cookout to today. And we were busy the last couple of days getting the house ready, doing yard work, and buying and preparing food. We got a lot done in a short time, and our home and yard are in better shape than they’ve been all summer.

Without this cookout to prepare for, those chores around the house would not have gotten done anytime soon.

Deadlines make things happen, especially public ones. It’s worth setting a deadline just to spark action.

Need to clean your house? Invite someone over. Want to make an idea of yours come to life? Pick a date and put something on the line that will force you to get moving.

“Magnificent desolation”

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My family just got home from an hour-long full moon guided hike at the botanical garden nearby. It was a nice change from our usual Saturday night. We learned about nocturnal creatures and enjoyed hearing the fading sound of the cicadas being replaced by the katydids as the sun went down.

As we drove home, the full moon was shining brightly. After walking in the woods and experiencing such variety of life and landscapes, imagining the stark emptiness of the moon is striking.

I read this comment about the moon from Apollo astronaut Buzz Aldrin this week:

My first words of my impression of being on the surface of the Moon that just came to my mind was “Magnificent desolation.” The magnificence of human beings, humanity, Planet Earth, maturing the technologies, imagination and courage to expand our capabilities beyond the next ocean, to dream about being on the Moon, and then taking advantage of increases in technology and carrying out that dream – achieving that is magnificent testimony to humanity.

But it is also desolate – there is no place on earth as desolate as what I was viewing in those first moments on the Lunar Surface. Because I realized what I was looking at, towards the horizon and in every direction, had not changed in hundreds, thousands of years. Beyond me I could see the moon curving away – no atmosphere, black sky.

Cold. Colder than anyone could experience on Earth when the sun is up- but when the sun is up for 14 days, it gets very, very hot. No sign of life whatsoever.

That is desolate. More desolate than any place on Earth.

I saw a tweet from physicist Brian Cox this morning speculating that Earth may be the only planet in the Milky Way with intelligent life. He later tweeted that intelligent life is likely elsewhere in the universe, but it’s his opinion that we are it for our galaxy.

We are living in wonderland, an oasis of fabulously interesting complexity and variety and beauty. I tend to be oblivious to how magnificent our world is. It’s nice to be reminded regularly that we are surrounded by wonders on this lovely little planet. Indeed, we are wonders ourselves.

Learn from everyone

I saw this Emerson quotation referenced in an Austin Kleon tweet yesterday:

I will learn from everyone and be no one’s disciple.

I couldn’t find the original source for it, but it seems very Emersonian.

Learn from everyone. Don’t assume you are wiser than anyone you encounter. Every person has experienced things you haven’t. Be open to what others can teach you. Be humble. Assume nothing about anyone.

When inclined to judge, try to understand instead.

This is all easy to say. Not so easy, though, to be the kind of person who truly faces the world so open-heartedly, so teachable and humble. Maybe this means asking more questions of others and genuinely listening to the answers. Listening more than you talk.

Then there’s the “be no one’s disciple” half of the phrase. No matter how together someone seems or how authoritative they are said to be, don’t bow down to their opinions and copy them into your worldview. Accept nothing without reasonable inquiry and solid evidence. Don’t give over your freedom to anyone else. Ever.

Dropping keys

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Catch yourself locking others up in your expectations, your dogma. And stop it.

Break out of the constraints others place on you. Be authentic. Be real. Be your rowdy, unfiltered self, regardless of what others want you to be and regardless of how imperfect you will be exposed to be.

Your freedom just might liberate someone else. Your vulnerability just might embolden those around you who are only going through the motions, who feel trapped in cages built by someone else.

The wise man accepts the beautiful messiness of life and does not try to fix others. He just wants them to be free.

Stop building cages. Start a jail break.

An audacious pursuit

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Take on some project that scares you because of how extraordinary it could be. Even if the project never comes to fruition, just working toward something you imagine to be awesome will amp up your life and spark possibilities that never would have occurred without an audacious pursuit.

Creativity, Inc.

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I recently finished reading Creativity, Inc. by Ed Catmull, the President of Pixar and Disney Animation. It’s really good. So many business books come across as superficial or self-serving PR pieces. But Catmull has created an enlightening, useful book filled with candid insights into the creative powerhouses he has helped to build.

Catmull tells the fascinating story of how Pixar came to be and then goes on to share how they have adapted in response to internal challenges to continue making remarkable movies. This is a particularly great read if you are responsible for leading other creative people or if you are part of a team of creatives. Catmull doesn’t sugarcoat Pixar’s success. He focuses repeatedly on failures and stresses that have forced the company to keep reinventing its processes.

This book is worthwhile for anyone who wants to understand what it takes to create and cultivate a great organizational culture.

If you’re part of an organization or a team or a family even, and you care about it being the best it can be, you must care about the group’s culture. If you’re not intentional about shaping and cultivating the culture, then brace yourself for the culture to be shaped randomly, and possibly destructively. Culture is everything for an organization.

It’s clear that Catmull and his partner John Lasseter (and the late Steve Jobs) were meticulous in crafting the culture of Pixar to bring out the best in the creative people on their team. And they’re still learning and failing and trying new approaches.

Here are some passages I highlighted as I read:

“Figuring out how to build a sustainable creative culture—one that didn’t just pay lip service to the importance of things like honesty, excellence, communication, originality, and self-assessment but really committed to them, no matter how uncomfortable that became—wasn’t a singular assignment. It was a day-in-day-out, full-time job. And one that I wanted to do.”

“My hope was to make this culture so vigorous that it would survive when Pixar’s founding members were long gone, enabling the company to continue producing original films that made money, yes, but also contributed positively to the world.”

“Getting the right people and the right chemistry is more important than getting the right idea.”

“Candor isn’t cruel. It does not destroy. On the contrary, any successful feedback system is built on empathy, on the idea that we are all in this together, that we understand your pain because we’ve experienced it ourselves.”

“You need storms. It’s like an ecology. To view lack of conflict as optimum is like saying a sunny day is optimum. A sunny day is when the sun wins out over the rain. There’s no conflict. You have a clear winner. But if every day is sunny and it doesn’t rain, things don’t grow. And if it’s sunny all the time—if, in fact, we don’t ever even have night—all kinds of things don’t happen and the planet dries up. The key is to view conflict as essential, because that’s how we know the best ideas will be tested and survive. You know, it can’t only be sunlight.”

“My rule of thumb is that any time we impose limits or procedures, we should ask how they will aid in enabling people to respond creatively. If the answer is that they won’t, then the proposals are ill suited to the task at hand.”

“Better to have train wrecks with miniature trains than with real ones.”

“Paying attention to the present moment without letting your thoughts and ideas about the past and the future get in the way is essential. Why? Because it makes room for the views of others. It allows us to begin to trust them—and, more important, to hear them. It makes us willing to experiment, and it makes it safe to try something that may fail. It encourages us to work on our awareness, trying to set up our own feedback loop in which paying attention improves our ability to pay attention. It requires us to understand that to advance creatively, we must let go of something. As the composer Philip Glass once said, ‘The real issue is not how do you find your voice, but … getting rid of the damn thing.'”

“My goal has never been to tell people how Pixar and Disney figured it all out but rather to show how we continue to figure it out, every hour of every day. How we persist. The future is not a destination—it is a direction. It is our job, then, to work each day to chart the right course and make corrections when, inevitably, we stray. I already can sense the next crisis coming around the corner. To keep a creative culture vibrant, we must not be afraid of constant uncertainty. We must accept it, just as we accept the weather. Uncertainty and change are life’s constants. And that’s the fun part.”

“Unleashing creativity requires that we loosen the controls, accept risk, trust our colleagues, work to clear the path for them, and pay attention to anything that creates fear. Doing all these things won’t necessarily make the job of managing a creative culture easier. But ease isn’t the goal; excellence is.”

What a refreshing book. Great stories. Candid insights. Humble confessions. Helpful advice from many of the key players at Pixar on how to work in a more effective and creative way. Pixar can seem to do no wrong. (Except for Cars 2. What happened there?) This book continues the string of excellent stories from what has become maybe our nation’s most iconic story teller.

 

 

Happiness, the pursuit

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After celebrating Independence Day here in the U.S.A. last week, we should remember the goal for those revolutionaries ultimately was a nation that would especially protect the rights to “life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness“.

A government cannot grant you happiness. But it’s nice of ours to at least promise to get out of the way and not impede our pursuit of it.

How’s the pursuit going for you? Me? I think I probably have moments of happiness at a slightly above average rate. Happiness, though, is an elusive state. If you notice yourself feeling happy and try to dissect why, you lose the feeling. You can look back on truly happy moments after the fact, but it’s hard to catch happiness in the act. What if the act of pursuing actually prevents you from reaching the desired state?

Can you list distinct, indisputable happy moments in your life? This is a good exercise for your journal. What are the peak happy times from throughout your life, the big falling-in-love and birth-of-your-children moments, and the small, quiet sitting-on-a-covered-porch-during-a-gentle-rain moments?

It’s worthwhile to excavate those memories and try to understand why those moments stand out. You might discover some common elements to help set yourself up for even more happiness, to create the conditions most likely to spark more happy memories. Why not be happy on purpose?

This enlightening TED Talk from Matt Killingsworth highlights his research showing that people are happiest when they are lost in a moment, when their minds do NOT wander.

This seems true for many of my happiest moments. The chatty part of my brain, the happiness-killing part prone to near constant monologuing, disappears when I’m in a zone, whether that’s work or play or reading or watching a movie or riding a roller coaster. Happiness is absorption.

Jason Silva, in a recent interview on the Tim Ferriss Podcast, said that his aim is to build his life around flow states. Excellent idea.

How can I set myself up for more flow states, more moments getting lost in something that quiets that inner monologue, that stops my mind from wandering away from the present moment? What are the conditions that tend to lead to this kind of absorption?

Can I craft my day around creating flow states for work and for play? Set up my work area, tune out distractions, and just begin, whether I feel like it or not. Maybe by creating the climate for happy moments and engaging in activities that require complete absorption, happiness will pursue me rather than the other way around.

More happiness, less pursuit.

 

A day’s work

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Bring on a new week, a new chance to make things and make things better.

A new chance to make a difference and awaken possibility.

A fresh start to connect and share and to be kind to someone who might need only a heartfelt smile or a listening ear to come alive and offer the same to others.

Best week ever, because it is this week. It is now. And it is on.

The elusive now

There would seem to be nothing more obvious, more tangible and palpable than the present moment. And yet it eludes us completely. All the sadness of life lies in that fact. -Milan Kundera

Independence everyday

It is Independence Day here in the U.S.A. We celebrate our founders’ revolt against tyranny and their fight for freedom to determine their own way, to allow our fellow citizens to live as they choose.

Regardless of our heroically won Constitutional rights, we regularly yield to the tyranny of conformity, of fitting in, of bowing to the imagined opinions of others.

Declare your independence everyday. Fight to follow your own way, to travel the path you choose, to be true to the voice inside you calling you to be the person you imagine you can be. And never stop fighting.

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Memento mori

How amazing that you, yes you, are in the exact geographic center of the universe.

At least that’s what your brain sort of tells you. All of reality exists for you, spins in orbit around you.

That is what we all feel to some extent. Our perception of reality is self-centered, centered on the world as we experience it.

All humans have experienced life this way. We each are living in a bubble of our own creation and filtering life through this perspective of a me-centered universe. It’s easy to ignore that every human around you is experiencing reality separately, oblivious, somehow, to the fact that you are the actual center of the universe.

It’s worth attempting to regularly shift that perspective and see yourself as the short-lived speck of a being you are. Here for a moment, fleeting. Not here as the reason for all that is. But a part, an astoundingly conscious part, of all that is.

It was Romans who reminded the high and the mighty, “Memento mori.” Remember you are mortal.

Your death may not be the thought you are eager to reflect on regularly. Most of us can relate to this sentiment instead:

I don’t want to achieve immortality through my work; I want to achieve immortality through not dying. I don’t want to live on in the hearts of my countrymen; I want to live on in my apartment. ― Woody Allen

But we’re all goners, it’s just a matter of when and how. And reflecting on the brevity of your own life can unburden you from feeling the weight of the me-centric world you create for yourself. It can embolden you to make something of that ripple in the pond that is your existence, your time under the sun.

A hundred years from now, you may have left a legacy worth talking about still, but you won’t be around for the conversation. The universe will go on, spinning into infinity without you. What you’ve got right now, the experience of being alive in the universe, is precious and finite. Live now, and live well, while you can.

Mid-year crisis, anyone?

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So, it’s July. The halfway point of 2014 is here. (I say twenty-fourteen. You? I reverted to my twentieth century ways once we reached 2010, and now it seems cumbersome to hear people say two-thousand-whatever.)

My recent birthday reminded me I’m well past midlife (unless I end up a centenarian), and any funk I may happen to find myself in from here on out cannot be explained away as a midlife crisis.

But can you have a mid-year crisis? All those January hopes and dreams? Where do they stand now? Wilting in the summer heat? Evaporated by now?

I don’t look in the mirror on this July 2nd and see a man six months better than the man I was on January 1st. I’m not exactly a goal-setter, but I haven’t had any systems in place (remember, go for systems over goals) throughout the previous six months that have led to making this year my best ever.

I have upped my reading, and I’ve been consistently writing and posting recently. I have had quality time and fun adventures with my family, and my work life is rolling along just fine.

I know the long game should be my focus. Six months is just six months. I have no regrets. I’ve enjoyed a happy half-year.

I just know with a bit more intention and a more consistent commitment to worthwhile systems and habits, even small ones, I could be further along towards a more excellent life.

I am not facing a mid-year crisis or even a mid-year bad mood. But it is a great time to assess where I stand. What good have I done this year, and what good remains to be done in the half year ahead? Examine your life regularly. Face it squarely. Change what you can. Accept what you can’t. Spend your days wisely.

How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives. -Annie Dillard

“Teach them to long for the endless immensity of the sea”

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Before what and how should come why. If you want to bring people along with you and bring out their best, first tell a story. Why are we here? Imagine journeying together on a grand adventure? Imagine what could be?

Tolstoy said “Art is infection.” An artist has a feeling she wants to share, and if she makes good art, effective art, the audience catches that very same feeling.

Lead others with rules and procedures and how-tos and you might end up with a seaworthy ship. Lead, though, with vision, with artfulness, with a compelling why, and you have a chance at an excellent journey, a shared life-worthy adventure worth talking about and remembering.

The Fermi Paradox and our place in the universe

What is the more disorienting, confounding possibility? That Earth is the only source of intelligent life in this massive and intricately complex universe, or that we are only one of many intelligent species scattered across the countless galaxies?

WaitButWhy.com has a magnificent explanation of the Fermi Paradox. It’s complicated. Go read it and ponder this really big question: since the universe is so, so big and very, very old and filled with earth-like planets in abundance, why haven’t we heard from any other intelligent species?

Consider this from the article:

for every grain of sand on Earth, there are 10,000 stars out there

AND

there are 100 Earth-like planets for every grain of sand in the world

These can be your imagination-defying, consciousness-expanding thoughts for the day, for the year even. You deserve to go to the beach just to stare dumbfounded at the sand and sky and bask in your smallness.

The article concludes with this:

Beyond its shocking science fiction component, The Fermi Paradox also leaves me with a deep humbling. Not just the normal “Oh yeah, I’m microscopic and my existence lasts for three seconds” humbling that the universe always triggers. The Fermi Paradox brings out a sharper, more personal humbling, one that can only happen after spending hours of research hearing your species’ most renowned scientists present insane theories, change their minds again and again, and wildly contradict each other—reminding us that future generations will look at us the same way we see the ancient people who were sure that the stars were the underside of the dome of heaven, and they’ll think “Wow they really had no idea what was going on.”

That said, given that my normal outlook is that humanity is a lonely orphan on a tiny rock in the middle of a desolate universe, the humbling fact that we’re probably not as smart as we think we are, and the possibility that a lot of what we’re sure about might be wrong, sounds wonderful. It opens the door just a crack that maybe, just maybe, there might be more to the story than we realize.

I love that thought: “the possibility that a lot of what we’re sure about might be wrong, sounds wonderful.”

Brace yourself for regularly discovering that you are wrong about really important stuff. Having all the answers is boring anyway, right? The people with the good questions are the ones having the most fun.

June books

I finished a couple of books this week – Dying Every Day about Seneca and Nero and The Sisters Brothers, a striking novel about brothers who work as hired killers on a mission to track down their victim during the California gold rush.

Both are impressively written, and both are a bit disturbing and dark. Death around almost every page.

Nero was brutal, having his own mother and wife murdered among many other victims who fell out of his favor. The glory of Rome is hard to see under such a monster, and the Stoic sage, Seneca, was unable to do much as Nero’s chief adviser to moderate his worst instincts.

The characters in The Sisters Brothers had a gentler, occasionally comic approach to their killings. But, still, I’ve read enough for now about violence and despair.

I’m moving on to continue making a dent in the pile of books I purchased earlier in the month. Here’s my current reading list not including a novel I just downloaded, Beautiful Ruins, which is only $2 right now for the Kindle version.

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Lukewarm is no good

I began to realize how important it was to be an enthusiast in life. If you are interested in something, no matter what it is, go at it full speed ahead. Embrace it with both arms, hug it, love it and above all become passionate about it. Lukewarm is no good. -Roald Dahl

via Maxistentialism

Those things that make you come alive? Abandon your restraint and caution and give them all you’ve got.

You don’t need a job to go to work every day

I was talking with my friend, Emily, today about the awesome career ahead of her. She just finished college and has no solid plans for where to begin this awesome career or what exactly she really wants to do. Which means, of course, her possibilities are infinite. And awesome.

I am no career coach. I’m still figuring out what I want to be when I grow up. Emily and I puzzled over her options for a while, brainstorming and dreaming. I ended up suggesting to Emily that she should go ahead and “go to work” every day starting now.

She could build a routine of an hour or two at least each day when she will show up and get busy making her career happen. Go to a coffee shop or the library and do research, read books, write, connect online with others to explore career possibilities.

She doesn’t need an employer or a salary to do work. She could make something every day – a blog post or an article or a video. (She’s a creative type with mad skills behind AND in front of the camera.) She does not need an office or a boss or permission from anyone to make something and share it with the world. And the act of doing work every day can lead to her getting really good at something and even to figuring out just what career path she should pursue. And if she gets a lead on an actual real-world job she’s excited about, she will have an actual body of work she’s created and is proud to show them.

Talking about this with Emily made me remember the song-a-day guy who every day posts a new song he’s created. His bio video tells his story and explains his 70-20-10 theory. 70 percent of the songs he creates will be mediocre. 20 percent will suck. But 10 percent just might be awesome. Check it out:

It’s the 90 percent of your work that’s average or worse that makes possible the 10 percent that’s awesome. Show up. Even when you don’t feel like it. Quantity leads to quality. Go to work every day.

Shoreline of wonder

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Want a wonderful, wonder-filled life? Don’t stop learning. Keep searching. Keep growing. More knowledge will make you more uncertain and more humble. And more in awe of the mystery of being alive in the universe.

If you keep pushing out into the sea of mystery, expect discomfort and disillusion and maybe long periods of feeling lost. The alternative, though, is a safe, secure, and numb sleepwalk of a journey to nowhere.

The only competition that matters

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How much better are you today than you were a year ago? Not better off. Better as a human, regardless of any change in circumstances beyond your control. I should be embarrassed to be virtually the same man I was even a few months ago. Principles should remain. Performance should improve.

Don’t look with envy at what others are doing. Don’t let the pace others set determine your pace. Don’t try to win some competition that doesn’t even exist. Live your life as excellently as you can.

As I said previously:

The only competition that matters is the one between who you want to become and who you are. Comparison with others will distract or discourage and put you off course. The you of one year from now should be able to kick the ass (in overall awesomeness and, maybe, physically as well) of the you from today.

“Wish the things which happen to be as they are”

Seek not that the things which happen should happen as you wish; but wish the things which happen to be as they are, and you will have a tranquil flow of life. –Epictetus

This is some serious mental jujitsu. There’s a fine line between passiveness and acceptance. One is weak. The other is strong.

Take action to make your plan happen, but accept whatever does happen as though it’s part of the plan.