“Do what nature demands. Get a move on—if you have it in you—and don’t worry whether anyone will give you credit for it. And don’t go expecting Plato’s Republic; be satisfied with even the smallest progress, and treat the outcome of it all as unimportant.”
Do your work. Don’t make a big a deal out of it or fret about whether you’re getting the credit you deserve or making a big enough impact.
Face what’s right in front of you and give it your best. Then move on without regret or second-guessing.
(“And don’t go expecting Plato’s Republic…” Ha!)
“The supreme accomplishment is to blur the line between work and play.” –Arnold Toynbee
Flow states are the blissful blur that line is calling for.
“Happiness is absorption.” –T.E. Lawrence
I make a point in a talk I do for student groups that there’s no hurry to make your mark or to “hit it big”.
There seems to be more pressure than ever for young people to not only have their career figured out right out of college, but to be rich and famous by the time they’re, say, 30. Crazy.
I challenge these 20-year-olds to instead aim to be awesome by the time they’re 60.
This advice goes over with a resounding thud every time I share it. But I’m convinced that you will make better decisions and actually grow and improve faster by choosing the long game instead of trying to conquer the world in your youth.
Even DaVinci’s first great success, The Last Supper, didn’t come till he was almost 50 years old.
Recently I saw this letter from a then 77-year-old Akira Kurosawa, the great Japanese filmmaker, wishing a happy 70th birthday to fellow filmmaker Ingmar Bergman:
Remarkable. At 77, he was expecting his best work was still ahead of him.
You don’t have to have it figured out. You won’t ever. Do your best where you are. Be excellent in just the next five minutes. Don’t force it or rush past this moment or compare yourself to some arbitrary or pointless standard set by others.
The arc of your life, should you be fortunate to have it counted in many decades, could bend gently and satisfyingly towards a kind of excellence you can’t even imagine from your current vantage point.
“If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured or far away.” –Henry David Thoreau
“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” –Victor Frankl
You don’t catch it. It catches you.
Pursue, instead, a cause bigger than yourself. Focus on what you have to offer, not on what you want to receive.
Aiming to bring happiness to others is a more direct path to your own happiness than trying to get what you think you want.
A haiku from the author Michael Bungay Stanier summarizing his book, The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way Your Lead Forever:
“Tell less and ask more.
Your advice is not as good
As you think it is.”
I need to print this and put it in a frame on my desk always in sight when I’m talking to people in my office. I’m prone to jump straight to what I think are solutions or helpful stories.
“That reminds me of a story…”
I’m becoming that guy.
Default to listening, not talking. Sit out the awkward gaps in conversation and wait.
Ask, “What’s on your mind?” Then keep at it by following up with “And what else?”
Leadership and friendship and human connection of any sort are all better served by sincere efforts to understand instead of attempting to be understood.
My wife has a knack for making things beautiful and making beautiful things. It’s her gift and a noble calling. Even her handwriting is artful. You should see the cakes she decorates. She cares about the small details and delights in delighting others.
I love that about her. Making things beautiful is her calling. It’s not her job. She’s not a professional artist, though her artistry infuses all she does.
We all need a calling, whether it aligns with a career or not. A gift to give, a contribution to make. What will be your life?